Being the Hero
Everyone faces some forms of difficulty in their lives. Whether it be a physical or mental illness, a personal loss, financial strain, or something that can’t even be explained, we all have our own battles. Sometimes we play the hero or the villain, sometimes we play the damsel in distress and sometimes we are so lost that we don’t even know how to play.
What do you do when one of those nasty obstacles rear their ugly heads? For a long time I stumbled between playing the damsel in distress, my own villain and being completely lost. But I think at the end of every day we all need to learn to play the hero.
Finding ways to listen to your inner voice and give your body, spirit and mind what you truly need is one of the most important steps to healing and being well. The following are my ways of taking care of myself; of playing the hero.
Everyone loves the hero. You root for them, you care about them, and you are inspired by them. Why is it so difficult to do this for ourselves? Being the hero in your story means finding a way to provide yourself with what you need. In order to truly do that you need to build a foundation of self-respect and self-love.
Whether or not you are facing a difficulty, self-love is a beautiful way to take care of yourself. In our society we are often led to believe that we are not good enough. We aren’t the right size or weight, our hair should be a different colour, we aren’t beautiful, our interests aren’t normal, and the list goes on. It can be difficult to feel any confidence in who you are when you aren’t who you think you should be.
How many of you have told yourself that you are not good enough recently? “I look fat”, “I can’t leave the house without makeup”, “my nose is too big”… When was the last time you told yourself that you were good enough and that you love yourself exactly the way you are?
Incorporating self-love into your daily life is a must for the sake of your mental, physical and spiritual well-being. Here are a few ways to do it:
- Practice Gratitude (Gratitude journaling, positive mantras, extending gratitude, etc.)
- Make time for the thing you enjoy
- Create a Self-Care Routine
- Dry Body Brushing
- Detox Baths
- Face Masks
- Exercise that you truly enjoy (yoga is a daily must for me)
- Oil Pulling
- Deep breathing
- Rest and relaxation
- Take a self-inventory
- Listen to what your body, heart and mind are telling you
- Assess your health and your needs
- Discover and indulging those needs
- Go easy on yourself
- You can only ever offer your best and that is enough
- Growth and change take time; be patient with yourself
- Accept yourself now, even if you feel like you aren’t good enough.
- Tell yourself that you accept yourself as you are. You may not believe it at first, but speaking positively to yourself and about yourself will help you build on those beliefs.
Create a Team
Hero’s need help. In every book, movie, and video game, there are always people along the hero’s journey who provide advice or shelter, who lend useful materials, or who help boost the hero’s abilities.
Difficulties are easier to face when you aren’t alone. Build a team to help you along your way. Your team should consist of people you trust, people who love you and people who can help. My team members include:
- My amazing family
- Wonderful Doctors
- Reliable friends
- My pets (Cuddles for stress relief and support)
- A registered holistic nutritionist
- Anyone who inspires me
- Many authors and bloggers
- People who have or were experiencing similar obstacles
Anyone can be part of your team: a massage therapist, a yoga instructor, a counselor or anyone else who can help you along your journey. Everyone will add different values to your group. Some help with your healing progress, whilst others provide an ear and a shoulder when you need it. Take inventory of your needs and be honest with yourself. Relay your needs to the team members that can help.
The hero needs to be motivated and involved in their journey in order to progress. Become an active participant in your health care. Your health is precious and it belongs to you. Doctors can be a wonderful help, but they are partners in your health journey; you need to be part of the team. Being an active participant in your own healing can ease the stress of waiting, the fear of wondering, and the anxiety of being lost. Here are a few ways to participate:
- Keep a food and symptoms journal
- This may help you find links between the two
- Learn everything you can about whatever it is that you are facing
- Come prepared
- Bring a list of questions to your appointments
- If possible – find a doctor that you feel comfortable with
- Keep up with test results
- Being aware of your progress can help you plan your next steps
Beware What You Consume
Hero’s need strength and resilience in order to win their battles. If you want to play the hero in your story you need to provide yourself with the tools to do so. Know that you are what you consume. Give thought to what you allow on or in your body (your thoughts, food and drink, hygiene products, etc.). Toxic thoughts, foods and chemicals can all be a huge burden on your beautiful body, spirit and mind and weaken you from the inside out. A weakened hero has a harder time defeating their foes.
Here are my ways of consuming only what serves myself and my health.
- Eating organic, local (when possible), real, unprocessed foods
- Using natural/organic products for beauty, cleaning and anything else possible
- Cooking for myself and my family
- Using essential oils and beeswax candles
- Choosing organic makeup (I personally love Zuii)
- Doing research before choosing any food, household or beauty products (This is a great source)
- Practicing self-love (see above)
- Catching any negative thoughts and discovering their source
Take Baby Steps
Most people can’t go from 0 to 100 in a day. Whatever changes you decide to make, set attainable goals and go easy on yourself. Be proud of your achievements and learn from your mistakes. Take your time. Do not measure your own success by the success of others. As Theodore Roosevelt once said – “Comparison is the thief of joy”. Your journey and someone else’s are not the same. The only path that you can walk on with true success is your own, so don’t stumble around trying to follow someone else’s trail.
Believe in yourself and you are halfway there.
All my love,
In what ways do you play the hero in your story?
Thought of the day: I will take care of my thoughts and my needs. I will listen to my heart and believe in myself. I am the hero in my story.